mercredi 23 février 2011

Points When Communicating With A Fuming Person

By John M. Henson


If you find yourself having to talk to an angry person at the counter or over the phone, there are certain tips that you can do to help you deal with them. Angry people are usually hard to talk to because they are frustrated and they want to do something with the situation. It is much better that you give them what they want but there are times that you should step up without offending them and make things worse for both of you. Here's how.

Never respond to hostility. If an angry person shouts at you, do not shout back. It will only progress to both of you shouting at each other or even throwing punches at each other. The best way to do this is to stay calm and understand why he is angry then you can talk some sense into him.

Listen carefully and learn why they are angry. Do not invalidate or belittle their feelings as it will only escalate their anger and would easily drive the conversation to a more violent road. It is much better that you acknowledge their feelings.

Drunk people are usually unstable people. They do not have the right mindset and would usually burst their feelings out. It is not a good idea to discuss or even have a heated argument with a drunk person especially if he has some violent tendencies. Wait for him to get some rest and talk to him when he is not drunk anymore.

If you find yourself in the middle of the street where angry people are also present, try to stay calm and do not engage them in any way. Do not look at them in the eyes nor attempt to talk to them or else they will tend to become violent towards you.

When these types of people want to get out of the place, do not try to hold them off. Do not add insult to injury by preventing them from going out from their current stressor. It is much better that you try to help them move out of the situation rather than prevent them from doing so.

Never try to defend yourself by putting the blame on the person who is angry at you for any reason out there. Do not try to defend yourself by attacking at them with their flaws or even their nasty attitude. It is better that you try to talk once they are done talking.

Do not try to solve an emotional issue with logical reasoning. If you put an emotion into a logical issue it will only confuse them and would most likely be frustrated even more. Example, if you try to tell someone that what he is doing is wrong because it is not acceptable to society will only escalate his anger even more.




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